Unheard?
While I had the trait of voicing out my opinions right from my childhood, there are times that I stayed calm even when something was troubling me. I assumed both Type A and Type B persons' traits.
A: The one who doesn't believe his/her voice doesn't matter. The one rather prefers to stay calm rather than deny or challenge the other person who is causing trouble in some way. The one who'd rather be a silent victim than face it.
B: If something doesn't align with what they believe, they question. They ask for what they want. They stammer, yet are loud.
As humans, we want to feel belonged and any disturbance caused in the process of becoming one among everybody is excruciating. To stand out from the crowd means being a criminal. Forget the criminal act, what if you're ridiculed or mocked at? You might also lose the advantage that you're to receive if the other person's view is denied. Gauging all we might lose and fearing all the unfavourable circumstances in head, we try to thwart the voice that is gushing through your throat. Over a period of time, the voice dies and your mind actually forgets who you are, what principles you stand by and your own likes and dislikes. A glacial murder of oneself.
On the other hand, what good does opining do? I don't really know how prevalent catcalling is all across the world. But in India, you are made to believe it's something that everybody experiences. In fact, it is okay to be catcalled. You know why? You believe that the issue only gets bigger once you go against the one who catcalled you or that it'd make a scene as you'd stand alone fighting. When someone denies our view and if we had power to write the other person's fate, won't we write it in the worst way possible? But, why? We believe our own belief system and views are impeccable and someone standing against them will hurt our egos.
The actual problem lies with the person on the other end. The person at the other end just doesn't listen, let alone hear the person's view. The person at the other end doesn't care about aiding someone fighting against an illicit act. This time you are conversing with a person, will you make sure that the he/she feels heard and become more tolerant to his/her views and ideas? This time you find someone fighting alone despite being repressed, won't you offer your support and let him/her know he/she is not alone. Of course, it isn't your own problem. However, doesn't it feel great when someone comes to your aid when you're fighting for something in a trembling tone?
Giving what you seek for is what makes you a hero. Being who you seek for, is what makes you a hero.
A: The one who doesn't believe his/her voice doesn't matter. The one rather prefers to stay calm rather than deny or challenge the other person who is causing trouble in some way. The one who'd rather be a silent victim than face it.
B: If something doesn't align with what they believe, they question. They ask for what they want. They stammer, yet are loud.
As humans, we want to feel belonged and any disturbance caused in the process of becoming one among everybody is excruciating. To stand out from the crowd means being a criminal. Forget the criminal act, what if you're ridiculed or mocked at? You might also lose the advantage that you're to receive if the other person's view is denied. Gauging all we might lose and fearing all the unfavourable circumstances in head, we try to thwart the voice that is gushing through your throat. Over a period of time, the voice dies and your mind actually forgets who you are, what principles you stand by and your own likes and dislikes. A glacial murder of oneself.
On the other hand, what good does opining do? I don't really know how prevalent catcalling is all across the world. But in India, you are made to believe it's something that everybody experiences. In fact, it is okay to be catcalled. You know why? You believe that the issue only gets bigger once you go against the one who catcalled you or that it'd make a scene as you'd stand alone fighting. When someone denies our view and if we had power to write the other person's fate, won't we write it in the worst way possible? But, why? We believe our own belief system and views are impeccable and someone standing against them will hurt our egos.
The actual problem lies with the person on the other end. The person at the other end just doesn't listen, let alone hear the person's view. The person at the other end doesn't care about aiding someone fighting against an illicit act. This time you are conversing with a person, will you make sure that the he/she feels heard and become more tolerant to his/her views and ideas? This time you find someone fighting alone despite being repressed, won't you offer your support and let him/her know he/she is not alone. Of course, it isn't your own problem. However, doesn't it feel great when someone comes to your aid when you're fighting for something in a trembling tone?
Giving what you seek for is what makes you a hero. Being who you seek for, is what makes you a hero.
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